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How to respond to people who say false things about you

There isn't a person alive who hasn't been accused of being someone they are not, especially in a negative light. So how do you respond to it when it happens to you?

The first question you need to ask yourself is are the things they are saying true? Not what you think is true but are they true? This is tricky because sometimes people put doubts in your head even though it is indeed the right thing. So you must be very careful and cautious about believing one thing and not the other.

For example, if a person has been accountant all of his or her life and someone criticizes his or her accounting skills, that criticism might surprisingly stick. It might even keep him or her up at nights. But don't believe that junk. If you have made it, you are capable, not in all areas but in the areas that matter.

However, if someone says your tax accounting knowledge is lacking and you haven't studied the tax code in over a decade, you might consider it. The clue is whether the criticism was specific and who said it. Was the criticism a personal attack or a professional critique? You can always improve but that should never diminish who you are.

So after some thought, if you think the criticism was unfair, then you should feel no harm was made. That is to say, it is like a novice criticizing a professional's knowledge. That will always happen, and it is almost always wrong. Take it like the critics who have erred in judgement making false statements -- that happens, you know -- and either be gentle to their ignorance or ignore them completely.

If the criticism is sound and you feel you can do some improving, then celebrate! You need to thank the person for pointing it out. Not too many people would take the time and emotional energy to do so, thus you can be appreciative of the gesture.

Hope your Thursday is a successful one.

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